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Be on the show

Send me your question and I may answer it out loud on a live stream, with everyone listening. It is completely free. I will also tell you now that most questions are never used, because far more come in than I can ever get to.

What free costs you is privacy. If yours is used, your first name, your age and your country go out to everyone watching, and people will have opinions about your situation. If you send a video, your face goes out with it. Sending it is also final: there is no taking it back. So please decide before you send rather than after.

If that is worth a shot to you, film it below. A video is the one I go to first and the most powerful thing you can send me, because people can see you while you say it. It is also the one that shows everyone who you are, so send one on purpose rather than because it is the button already selected. If you would rather not be seen, send your voice instead. I would still much rather hear you than read your words.

Video first

A video or a recording is played on air as you sent it. It is the whole point of the format. A video means your face is on the screen.

First names only

I only ever say your first name. Your last name is never said and never shown.

Sending is final

There is no take back and no un-send. Once it is in, the show can use it.

Step 1. Your question

3 minute maximum. Anything longer is too long to play on the show.

Please turn your phone sideways to film

Hold it sideways, the wide way. Upright still works, but sideways looks best on the show and leaves room for your words on screen underneath you.
Face a window if you can. Do not stand with a bright window behind you.
Get close enough that I can hear you clearly. Your voice matters more than the picture.
Somewhere quiet. No traffic, no TV, no wind.
Play it back before you send it and check you can hear yourself. If I cannot hear you, I cannot use it.

Record it in your normal camera app, then choose it below. Set your camera to 1080p rather than 4K if you can, because a 4K file takes far longer to send and looks exactly the same on the show.

Choose your video

mp4 or mov, which is what your phone camera makes.

Step 2. About you

First name *

Last name *

Only your first name is ever used on the show. Your last name is never said and never shown. I ask for it so I know who sent this.

Your age *

This is only for context. The same question means something very different at 25 than it does at 45, and being honest here is what lets Tomisin read your situation accurately. Your age and your country are shown beside your first name, along with the video you send, which means your face.

Email *

Phone *

In case I need to reach you about your question. It is never said on air. If your number is from another country, type it with the + and the country code.

Country *

State or region *

City *

Your country is the only part of this that is ever shown on the show, so people listening get a rough sense of where you are writing from. Your city and your state or region are never shown and never said.

Step 3. Before you send

Free is the trade. This is public, it is not private, and sending it is final. Your first name, age and country may be said out loud. If what you need is privacy, the Ask page is the private route.

This is a public show and sending this is final. If I send a video, my face is seen by everyone watching. I give Tomisin Atobatele permission to play, show, read out, quote, edit and share my question, my recorded voice and my video anywhere, for as long as he wants. My first name, age and country may be said out loud, and people will be able to comment on my situation. I cannot take this back after I send it. *

Read the full release

I am 20 or older. *

This form is not a helpline and nobody watches it in real time. If something is happening right now, please do not wait for me.

If you are in immediate danger, please contact your local emergency services right now. For free, confidential help any time: in the US or Canada you can call or text 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. In the US you can also text START to 88788 for the National Domestic Violence Hotline; in Canada you can reach the Assaulted Women's Helpline at 1-866-863-0511. If you are somewhere else, your local emergency number or a local crisis line can help right away.

Still needed: your name and a working email, your age, a phone number, where you are (country, state or region, and city), a video of you asking your question (an mp4 or a mov, which is what your phone's camera makes), the release box, the age box, the captcha check just above.

Sending this does not mean it gets answered. Most are not.

Want an answer you know is coming?

The show is free, public, and a long shot. If what you are going through is too personal to put on a stream, or you simply need a real answer rather than a chance at one, ask me privately instead. That one is recorded just for you, it comes with a written guide, and it is never public. A private question is never used on the show either, even if you have also sent one here.

Ask me privately

The full release you agree to when you submit